Problems with Boundaries? Here’s How to Fix It
“You’re not Aspie because Aspies don’t have feelings.”
Has someone ever said something to you that kind of rubbed you the wrong way but at the moment you could not factor how exactly you should respond?
Almost gives you that who raised you typeface but because you have “boundaries” and you understand energy you choose to have boundaries with yourself and be mindful of how you respond.
The truth is…
…People .... are going to be people.
Some people will have you feeling like I am not whatever you think I am with their clearly obvious projections and then you have Some people that can just be so entitled to your life and information that makes you go hmm.
I like to consider boundaries, needs— it gives it a softer connotation for me.
When we acknowledge our needs, we inadvertently let people know what we will and won’t tolerate with invisible barriers.
More so, it creates space for communication around how to better serve our needs.
Upholding your needs is self-respect and self-respect is self-love.
When people don’t know your boundaries it is like walking into a home that you thought was an open house, but actually just sold.
They completely invade, that’s why it is important to acknowledge your needs even when they may seem minuscule or like “they should know.”
You have to put up your “just sold” sign and let folks know you live here and your energy is present and worthy of whatever you are requiring and whatever they are currently offering you is uninvited and not welcome there any further.
Acknowledging your needs puts you in a position to show yourself some self-love and respect because you’re honoring what it is you truly need.
So when’s the last time you set a boundary with yourself?
It’s okay if you haven’t, another fun part about self-love is you get to dictate and choose when to make the changes you seek to see.
Show yourself some gentle love and spread a little forgiveness by honoring your needs and self-respect.
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